Caring is Sharing

So... Its been awhile since I have written anything... I didnt think anyone paid attention to this, though the this new blog home page... I'm actually wrong about that AND I got a text message from a new friend that stated, " I disagree with your Worldviiew" my first thought was... join the club, I'm a Christian...lol(not just a Christian but a Christ Follower).Then he mentioned my blog and said he didnt think that people dont care about one another... Strangely enough, I was having that same conversation in my head before he wrote me and I was just trying to get over that fact that its true; people do not care about other people. BUT in order for this conversation to work...we have to define caring. As stated before, I am a Christian, so I am going to with a more Biblical out look for things. Jesus(God) is love and love involves caring... and He only wants the best for us. So that is the kind of caring I am talking about. If you meet Jesus on the street you would walk away from that conversation thinking..."Man, that guy really saw me for who I was... and was genuinely concerned about my life, well being and creating a relationship with me." Right? Okay. Now I am going to introduce you to the happenings of the night: I was suppose to hang out with a new group of friends.We were going to a Frat party...yeah not really my hang out, BUT I wanted to spend sometime with the girl that wanted to go- so I agreed. Beatrice, all names have been changed to protect the loved ones involved, decided that she didnt want to go unless another one of our friends went. Well, he,we are going to call him Benny, was really sick and I knew he probably wasn't going to come.... Now that I write this I wonder if she knew he wasn't going to come from the very beginning but we will say no and give her the benefit of the doubt. So Another guy, we will call Benny2, was already on board and we were just waiting to hear word from Beatrice and Benny. Well no word came and I'm not surprised. So.. I text Benny2... Yo Benny2, I think that our plans are going to be cancelled (explaining above) and he was oooh okay. I was in the mood for a movie and I usually go alone but since him and I had "plans" I invited him a long. He responds "sure, why not?" And I was like... " You should have said,'with you, yea!'" just joking around. Then he says...Well, Beatrice is already here, so can we come? I wanted to be like "Hellz to the No"(excuse my language-thats just how I felt) but I didnt. I just said sure, but nothing scary. We then began to construct new plans for the night. Then Benny2 randomly mentions to me they are going to eat if I wanted to come... and I was already out with my mother so declined, but asked where they were going. He told me and informed me they were about to walk in and he would text me later if they can still go to the movies. I gladly responded,"No thanks". SO... what happened here was, I made plans with friends and they changed them without even telling me. Then when I call to let them know I was changing mine and make new ones with them and they agreed to them-in which THEY WERE ALREADY MAKING OTHER PLANS and the likely hood of them coming to a movie with me was very, very small.( I prefer rejection over lies- I'm, pretty sure everyone does. Think back to the last time you told someone a lie...you were probably avoiding rejecting them....) I know what you are thinking- this is one, isolated event. I can't make up my mind about all people over this and you would be correct. However, if you know me, you know I have a wide and diverse group of associates. Most of them are just like this- putting themselves before others (whether I am the victim or watching them) Actually, I wouldn't even go as far to say that people DON"T care... people don't know how to care. Whose fault is that?.... I blame society for a lot of things the people should take personal responsibility for, but I don't think that people realize the influence it really has on us. I believe that people are my calling. God has given me a great ability to love people, genuinely- I don't think I was named Chaarity by accident. Yes, it's tiring and Yes, it is a struggle... I have been to many funerals and I have read stories on people who have passed. The only way we will be remembered is through the thoughts of other people. What are they going to say about you? She always had the nicest clothes....She was smart but always kept to herself....When ever I needed her I could never get her BUT when she needed something she was my best friend. Through all of this, I will never give up on people. I do meet people who I can walk away from and feel like they really saw me, not my dreads, my dark skin or not my glasses, but me. Those people remind me how much God loves me and if I can show that to one other person, then I will continue through the tiredness and the struggle because Your worth it.

World Citizens

My fellow citizens:

Why is it that we dont care enough about ourselves to educate ourselves about our country? Our government? The decisions that are made everyday with our money and through our authorities?

Okay- So you hate Obama? Welcome to the President hating club, EVERY SINGLE ONE WE HAVE HAD HAS HAD ONE...well Maybe not Washington. However, I just believe that's because people were still testing the waters with this "freedom" idea. If he were here today, most of America- educated or otherwise would probably strongly dislike him. Knowing our present generations it would probably be because of his wooden teeth. I mean, one of the man reason why Nixon didn't win against JFK was because he wasn't as good looking on TV....


Another Dislike

Lack of common care for our fellow man. As I walked around campus one day with my friend and I was hit by 2 or so umbrellas. None of which even looked back after or AT me when it happen. They saw me, but it just didn't matter. Sure this seems like a small crime, but this mind set is what makes it funny for teenagers to kill homeless people. Or for guys to rape a girl after she has had too many. Or what makes a Pimp someone else's problem.

At this rate, we are all going to watch each other be killed and not even think twice about it....

Women use men- Men use women in relationships that are suppose to bring happiness and joy that has been proven cant be found in any other place. BUT still, instead of caring for people and living a more fulfilling life- we would rather hurt people to make ourselves feel "better" and keep ourselves from getting hurt.

(I know then we get into the argument, What is a Filling life? Is it relative? If we didnt need one another, then our existence wouldn't be so dependent one another.)

Reality, no one wins. You still feel like crap and that person feels even worse. Keep moving though... to your next victim and dont look back. It shows weakness.

WAKE UP PEOPLE- this universe had a beginning and it is going to come to an end. Even if there is nothing waiting on the other side at least on this side I lived for something bigger than myself- A Community.

What is love?

All you need is love... everyone knows that lovely Counter Culturally aged tune by a band that I have grown to "love" over my years here on this Earth, The Beatles. Question is, what is love?. Many people have a definition of what they think it is.. but the truth is, some of them are wrong.

As we learned in elementary school that kids, mostly the girls, are very mean and 2 plus 2 equals 4. There is a right and wrong answer to that question. Relativity and moral stand point has nothing to do with that- as it doesn't in many other subjects that people would disagree on, but that is not where this post is heading.

Fact is there is a right and a wrong.

So what is the right and the wrong definition of love. Yes, yes, there are more than one ways to love a person. Some people prefer to see love a certain way. But the definition of art and what art looks like are two very different things.

So often I hear people say that Christians don't really know what love is. And I have heard that Christians know love better than other religions like Muslim... (which are are relative statements)... Some say to get to real love you have to drop religion all together, which in some form I think is correct.

But tell me, what is love?

Before we come with way to do it effectively or get the nerve to tell someone that they don't do it right or enough. Tell me what is first... Please.

Good Apples

Girls are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.

Do not Stand on My Grace and Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave bereft
I am not there. I have not left.

Mary Elizabeth Frye

Make a difference- What will you leave behind?
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Glass of Water Anyone?

There are so many things that our culture takes for granted. I know, that is a tag line that is used so much it has definitely lost its meaning.

I am the type of person that takes other people’s problems and where them as a sweater. Then when my own problems seem to pile up sometimes the only think I know to do is shower. That is my release moment. I tell myself the same words that were used to soothe May in the Secret Life of Bees, “Just let the problems roll off your back like the water.” It helps and every time I find myself praying for the people who don’t have the opportunity to detox and recenter.

A couple of years ago I found out that there are some people in the world that are so dehydrated they can’t even cry. Most people in our culture see crying as a weakness, as something you would never want anyone to ever see you doing- and in other countries crying is right. One that is gained through the simple right of water and even taken away by a rank, a rank that will kill you for even trying to show emotion.

Charity : Water has given us a chance to give a basic right to those who need it by giving away your birthday. This year I am giving away my 20th birthday (and what would be Elvis’ 76 birthday) for this cause! If every single one of my friends gives a dollar, I will surpass my goal or $1000.

Give what you can – 1, 10, 20: every penny will count!
Make Me (and Elvis) proud!
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